How to Make the Best of Now

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If Only I Had a DeLorean! On several occasions this past week while I was seeing clients in counseling, I kept thinking, “If only they had a DeLorean!”  You remember the famed car from the “Back to the Future” trilogy?  Marty McFly had the power to go backward or forward in time.  By punching in the date of his choice, the …

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5 Ways to Disarm an Argument

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Arguments are inevitable. Can’t avoid them 100% of the time. Under certain circumstances the probability increases a fight is coming. Things like– a bad mood– rough day–or, “oops, I forgot”. Then there are conflicts that blindside you. Everything seems to be going well–good mood–smooth day– and “got it done”. All of a sudden–BAM! A fight explodes from nowhere. Arguments, not …

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Failing In The Right Direction

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I surprised my wife Marian this weekend with an overnight at the Herrington Inn, a lovely hotel on the Fox River in Geneva, Illinois.  It was a nice break after feeling cooped-up during the arctic freeze that forced us into hibernation.  A cozy getaway was a perfect remedy. We had dinner at one of our favorite restaurants (Niche), totally relaxing …

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When Your Kids Become Adults

  I finished a difficult counseling session that left me feeling completely drained.  Seconds later, my phone rings.  “Oh please, not now” I thought to myself.  The caller ID reads “Jordan”.  No, not MJ.  Even better.  It’s my youngest of three, who coincidentally is 23 years old.  “Hey dad, I’m in the area.  Interested in getting a bite to eat?” Perfect …

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Beautiful In Its Time

Father’s Day wasn’t supposed to end this way.  It just didn’t seem right.  In fact, just about every person I talked to echoed this sentiment, “It’s not fair!” So what happened? The unexpected happened.  A beautiful day ended in tragedy. For my sister Pam and future brother-in-law Al, it was the best time in their life.  Their dream of beginning a …

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The Value of Human Validation

  Have you ever wondered what it would be like to have something of great value and not recognize it?  Suppose for example, you owned a valuable picture, book, or rare coin and sold it in a garage sale only to discover the person who bought it became wealthy. A few years ago, an individual purchased a bowl for $3 …

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Resentment – Causes, Consequences, & Cures

  As a relationship, communication specialist I spend a vast majority of my day working with couples and/or families who face challenges in sustaining healthy relationships.  They often seek my services to help them learn how to communicate, find respect, resolve conflicts, and form meaningful connections.  I enjoy working in this arena because change is possible. Indeed, my work is …

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How To Fix Her Problem In 5 Easy Steps

If you are a guy, do yourself a favor, read and save this article.  In fact, you may want to send to some of your buddies.  If you are a wife or girlfriend, forward this to your man. Guys, we have this dilemma when it comes to helping the women we love when they share their problems with us.  Women …

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How to Fix His Problem In 5 Easy Steps

Last month I wrote an article for men, “How to Fix Her Problem in 5 Easy Steps”.  It did not occur to me to write a follow-up article for women, because it seems to me that females have us figured out!  However when asked by some folks (mostly women) if I could do a follow-up article for them, I thought …

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Remember Your First Love?

February 14 is a red letter day for young and old alike.  For centuries in parts of Europe and in America, Valentines Day is a time when love is expressed in beautifully crafted cards.  And if the recipient is someone special, the card is often accompanied by a box of chocolates! How this holiday originated is a subject of debate.  …

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