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The second presidential debate shed light on the issue of how women are treated sexually by men. When it comes to their questionable sexual behavior, some male politicians become sex educators. They teach lessons on “locker room talk” or variations on what the meaning of the word “is” is. Concern over the abuse of power by men toward women, whether in politics, business, or any social arena begs serious attention. Yet when we hear leaders “gaslight” their behavior what message does it send to women? How does it influence the sexual attitudes of young boys toward girls? The term “gas-lighting” comes from the 1938 play Gaslight. The main plot focuses on a husband’s methodical attempt to convince his wife and others she is insane. He does this by manipulating her to question her perception of events. One way he accomplishes his goal is to secretly dim the gaslight in the room. When she comments that the room is getting darker, he tells her that the light intensity has not changed-“It’s just your imagination.” The objectification of women by men ignores their equality. It dims the light on their right to be treated respectfully. “Boys will be boys” gaslights women’s reactions to inappropriate talk or touching. Tell me, is this fair treatment? What if the tables were turned guys and someone exploited you sexually? Here are three actions a woman can take when being gaslighted by a man.